Dear Light Bearer, remember the post I made last year about my struggle with fizzy drinks (Pepsi and her cousins). Somehow, I never got around to writing the second part of it. Recently I have had that craving strongly again, and on one occasion I found myself almost caving in.
This time around, it was Fanta. I was on my way back home and I was telling myself that when I get home I will take the cold Fanta. Unfortunately for my craving, I had to stop and meet with someone. That meeting took about 1 hour of my time and before I got home, my craving was gone. I didn’t remember I said I would buy Fanta when I get home, at least not until yesterday.
Yesterday, I got on a call with my friend and told him I wanted to drink Fanta, not because I wanted him to buy it for me. If you know me well, you will know that sometimes I say the most random things. And my friend said. “Why do you want to drink Fanta when you are already fantastic? Why stoop low?” And I laughed. He then told me to go and get the drink if the Lord permits. Just then I realized something and shared it with him. So, what started as just bant ended in a pretty serious conversation, part of which I would love to share.
I realized, it is easier to abstain from something you have not had a taste of than it is to abstain from what you have tasted.
For someone who has never tasted alcohol, I can not crave alcohol. I have tasted Fanta before that is why each time I develop a craving for it my mind would recall the feeling of satisfaction and sweetness I derived from taking it. But if my body craves alcohol, it is easier to do away with the feeling because I have no previous memory of how it tastes. This is the same thing with sex. It is easier to let go of your sexual urge when you have not had a taste before. More reason why it is advisable to practice abstinence till marriage.
Dear Light Bearer, don’t start what you cannot finish! If you cannot sustain a habit, why start it? You are not married, so why do you want to be having sex?
One of the Lessons God taught me about soda abstinence concerning sexual abstinence is that. Would you just have sex just because you feel like it? Don’t just do things because you feel like it, you are not a slave to your desires.
I get that you are now struggling, you tasted it, and you want to stop but you can't seem to. Look, I get you. Trust me, I understand. So what do you do when the urge comes? I have four things for you.
Engage your mind and your hands: Take a walk, go to where people are, and try doing something productive. This is not only about sexual urges, it burns down to every habit you are trying to break.
Be accountable: Don’t do this journey on your own. Talk to a trusted friend, so each time you are tempted you can report yourself.
Be vocal about your stand: When you talk about it you know that there are plenty of people who are looking out for you.
Ask Jesus to help you: See, I can’t even begin to talk about how much help talking to Jesus about my struggles has brought me. Jesus wants to hear and help. Tell him.
Remember, if you fail on the day of adversity, then there wasn’t much to you in the first place(Proverbs 24:10). Let me pray with you.
Dear Lord, thank you for such a time as this, thank you for opening our eyes t this truth. Lord, please help us to not be subject to our desires. Help us so that on the day of adversary our strength will not fail us. Thank you because you are renewing the strength of everyone reading this letter. In Jesus’ name I have prayed. Amen.
Yours-in-love,
Mo, The Light Bearer✨
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